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254 Church Street
San Francisco, CA 94114
(415) 494-7074

What’s going on?
Being in a relationship can be rewarding and challenging. We are "wired for connection." Since birth, connection and safety are the basic ingredients to move beyond surviving…and into thriving. Yet that same yearning to connect can cause stress and anxiety. Although you want to be in a relationship, you might also feel dependent, overwhelmed, too much, too little...the list goes on! 

Our partners, as much as we love them, often trigger the very fears and doubts we hoped a relationship would resolve! And so a “negative cycle” is created…each partner triggering the other. This repetitive cycle creates distance, even though we are trying to connect--feel closer, cherished, loved, and safe. 

How will therapy help?
The good news…the negative cycle is the problem, not you! Even better news…the cycle can be changed! One approach I use is Emotionally Focused Therapy. EFT is a structured, proven approach to help you move beyond destructive, repeating cycles of fighting and arguing. This powerful way of working can bring you closer, with a new, deeper understanding of how your partnership can be nurturing, safe, and intimate.

“Research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements.” (

Why me?
I want you to find relief from the immediate pain and resolve the deeper, internal conflicts and doubts. 

As a fifty-three-year-old gay male therapist, married for eight years, my academic, personal and professional life experiences give me unique perspective, understanding, and compassion. 

In session with me, you can expect me to be attentive, curious, respectful, and above all non-judgmental. I am gentle and direct. My clients tend to trust me even when they have a hard time trusting their partners. Sessions may feel intense and safe at the same time.