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254 Church Street
San Francisco
(415) 494-7074

Relationships are challenging for everyone. Couples counseling can be a great place to get your relationship back on track. It’s like taking your car to a mechanic for a tune-up. Because once the honeymoon period of a relationship is over, couples may find that they struggle with communication or intimacy issues, and it can be helpful to have an objective, third-party offer their feedback and guidance in a safe and confidential setting. 

Often a recent or upcoming transition in the relationship, such as having kids, adds stress to the relationship. Couples discover that the skills they had to navigate earlier stages of the relationship, no longer work in this new stage. So whether you frequently argue, get stuck talking about important topics such as marriage or finances, or no longer feel connected to your partner, we would explore what’s keeping you stuck in these dynamics, and discover ways of communicating and connecting in order to rebuild the bond you once had. 

Difficulty with communication is just one of the issues that I work with. I also work with people who question whether they are still compatible with each other and if the relationship is salvageable. Perhaps it feels as though there is an emotional gulf between you and your partner, and you are uncertain whether the love and excitement that brought the two of you together can be revived. 

Couples therapy can be an ideal setting to gain clarity about whether to stay together or separate. I facilitate your conversations and shine light on aspects of your relationship that you may not be seeing, both the strengths and challenges. Having a set time and space each week for you and your partner to express yourselves can give you insight as to the direction you want to take.

Issues I work with for both heterosexual and same sex couples are:

  • Premarital counseling

  • Navigating cultural differences within the relationship

  • Recent or upcoming transitions such as marriage, children, or moving in together

  • Lack of sexual and emotional intimacy

  • Communication difficulties

  • Conflict management

  • Deciding whether to stay together or separate

  • Infidelity

I received my Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I have extensive training in couples counseling, and my work is primarily informed by Emotionally Focused Therapy. I also specialize in working with individuals struggling with anxiety/depression, relationship issues, codependency and disordered eating.